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Here’s what you need to know about the fetish called the "golden shower," including why some people find it super hot.
In light of the increased media attention on the good old golden shower, we set out to get to the bottom of the
Others might get pleasure out of degrading or humiliating their partner or being degraded themselves. “The person being peed on likes being dominated and being controlled—and sometimes also likes the warmth and even the taste of the pee,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
For others, it just feels really damn good. “It can be purely sexual—it feels good to release yourself,” Stambaugh explains. “All of us have had the experience of urinating after holding it for a long time—you could potentially sexualize that feeling of intense relief.”
Author Peggy Orenstein says that when it comes to sexuality, girls today are receiving mixed messages. Girls hear that “they’re supposed to be sexy, they’re supposed to perform sexually for boys,” Orenstein tells
She says that pop culture and pornography sexualize young women by creating undue pressure to look and act sexy. These pressures affect both the sexual expectations that girls put on themselves and the expectations boys project onto them.
Peggy Orenstein has been chronicling the lives of girls for over 25 years. Her book
Orenstein adds that girls she spoke to were often navigating between being considered “slutty” or a “prude,” and that their own desires were often lost in the shuffle. Girls, Orenstein says, are being taught to please their partners without regard to their own desires.
“When I would talk to girls, for instance, about oral sex, that was something that they were doing from a pretty young age, and it tended to go one way [and not be reciprocated],” Orenstein explains.
She recommends that parents examine the messages they send regarding girls and sexuality. “One of the things that I really took away from this research, is the absolute importance of not just talking about [girls] as victims, or not just talking about them as these new aggressors, but really surfacing these ideas of talking clearly and honestly to girls about their own desires and their own pleasures,” she says.
Parents don’t tend to name their infant baby’s genitals if they’re girls. For boys, they’ll say, “Here’s your nose, here’s your shoulders, here’s your waist, here’s your pee pee,” whatever. But with girls, there’s this sort of blank space — it’s right from navel to knees, and not naming something makes it quite literally unspeakable.
